Help Yourself

I hate people that will not help themselves. I will be the first person there for a person if they need me. I will also do anything to help buttress any goals or initiatives that they are under-taking to better themselves, but when people come to me with situations in which they have not even began to think of solutions, that really aggravates me. Yes, it is one thing to vent, but it is a totally different thing to create a negative aura about yourself and send you and others around you into a negative spiral simply because you wish to sit there and feel sorry for yourself. Things happen to everyone. It is not a good tactic to sift through the minutia and try and determine who is suffering more. A person of true character is not evaluated on what is given to them. A person that is to be respected is respected and evaluated based on what they do with what they were given. It is irrelevant the degree to which someone goes through hardship because, in my opinion, pain is relative. Victor Frankl writes that you can lose your Mom and at that same moment that you lose her have someone else pricked with a pin. Whose pain is worse? I would argue and agree with Frankl that they are the same. For in that instantaneous moment, both people are experiencing a pain that is encompassing their entire life. While the former may have longer lasting effects, it is not fair to judge the pin's pain since for that moment it did mean the world to that person and also no one can judge how a situation or problem might affect someone. Given all this though, we as a society have to learn to start helping ourselves. Waiting for someone to pick you out of the gutter will lead you nowhere, and it is important for people to realize that on average someone will only try three repetitive times to help you on a problem. If you keep refusing and wish to stay in your self-created purgatory, then you shall have to suffer for the hell on earth that you created yourself since you are helpless.